When adults fall off their training — it’s rarely dramatic. It’s subtle. A rushed morning. A busy week. A missed session. A decision to “start fresh next Monday.” Then suddenly, without meaning to, you’re back where you promised you’d never be again: Stiff. Low energy. Eating on autopilot. Feeling guilty. Avoiding mirrors. Telling yourself you’ll sort it when life calms down.

Around the 8–12 week mark something interesting happens: People stop looking at the calendar. They don’t think about whether they “feel like training.” They don’t fight with themselves. They just go. Because at that point, it’s no longer something they do. It’s who they are. This is what my book calls Identity over Intensity — when the behaviour becomes automatic.

Cardio is not the answer. Building Strength is. The Lie We All Fell For When most adults decide they need to “get fit again,” they do one thing: They start running. Maybe it’s guilt. Maybe it’s nostalgia. Maybe it’s because running feels like the thing “fit people do.” So they lace up old trainers, hit the pavement, and within 10 minutes remember why they stopped doing this in the first place: Knees ache. Shins burn. Lower back tightens. And the lungs feel like a fire alarm w